I've had a wonderful experience with this set so far! Obviously, like all new comforters, it won't feel as comfortable as the comforter set you've had for the past several years, but, just like those as well, it will eventually "break in" and feel just like normal! In fact, it did this much faster than expected! Really it's quite soft. Also, don't make the mistake I made and not read the tag. Due to the easily stain-able nature of white comforters I had stained it sooner than I had hoped. I tried to remove the small stain with bleach (something the tag blatantly states not to do) and it left a very faint pale yellow spot which is, unfortunately, visible in most lighting. I have since learned that other non-bleach spot removers work very well and do no harm to the comforter. Overall this comforter set was well worth the cost. The design is stitched on. It isn't a thin cheaply made material; it is a thick quilted material which is thick enough to cover the darkly colored sheets I have underneath it without the color showing through.