I looked at this book from a different perspective than most readers. I didn't read it as a person in need of relationship advice. Rather, I read it as a person who has been happily married for 22 years. My question was, how closely did the advice in this book match what I was doing successfully?.....A bestseller since 1988, the book is separated into 3 sections.....-the first part talks about how unmet childhood needs can affect your future relationships.....-the second part talks about a marriage that can fulfil your unmet childhood needs in constructive ways.....-lastly, part three is the exercises. Here you'll be taken through a series of exercises that you can do at home that have been actually used in the author's practice. They're easy to do and involve writing......Well, that's a rough synopsis that should give you a little bit of a feel as to how the book is set up- and what its about......So how closely did the advice in this book match what I have been doing all this time to create a successful 22-year marriage? Perfectly- both the book and I promote the idea that you have to work at your marriage to make it work! And perhaps that's the best piece of advice of all: find constructive ways to make you marriage better- and that's one thing this book most certainly succeeds at. Other self-help books I liked include "Finding Happiness in a Frustrating World".