he won't mind helping you put this gigantic set togther. I mean, it's BIG (yes re-read the dimensions). And the pieces are heavy. Took 3 hours to put the bed together alone. Instructions are picture-only. They DO make sense, the brackets on the four corners LOOK upside down but are supposed to be that way. The holes in them are only to help position the mattress frame.END RESULT: A beautiful, modern, I-want-to-spend-my-life-in-bed look. Used the zebra-striped comforter set from Overstock and the the 8 inch memory foam mattress. Even my boyfriend was amazed how well/beautiful it all looked and felt. I have a black and white theme in the bedroom so this is absolutely perfect. Gave four stars instead of 5 because one screw hole was stripped and useless and it is a very hard piece to put together. The nightstands were also not easy, in many pieces. Have to do the dresser next, I assume it will be like the nightstands.