This book cuts through the myths we've been taught- if you change your dance, he'll have to change his. I wanted to know hard facts: statistically, will he change,or will it be enough; what am I doing that is causing it, is it possible do do anything different to prevent it; what is in his wiring causing him to act like he does. This book offers resourses to help the abused woman get out safely and insight into what behaviors to watch for. I have read any number of boundaries books that want me to believe that if I change he will. They are not talking about the selfish, abusive male who has a conciously thought out plan to crush his mate.
This book clearly opened my eyes and that of my lawyer, judge and local police during my divorce proceedings involving physical & mental abuse. Our community was fortunate to have Mr. Bancroft visit our town and speak. In his book he puts into words what every woman in an abusive relationship knows but questions it to be true. I have given this book to women in abusive situations and to those people involved in rescuing them. It will help you realize you ARE NOT CRAZY and what you feel is real! Read it, recommend it...it will save a life, it did mine!