The bestselling guide to transforming an intimate relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship, revised and with a new afterword
In Getting the Love You Want, Dr. Harville Hendrix presents the relationship skills that have helped hundreds of thousands of couples replace confrontation and criticism with a process of mutual support that facilitates healing and growth. This extraordinary practical guide describes the revolutionary technique of Imago Relationship Therapy, which combines a number of disciplines—including the behavioral sciences, depth psychology, social learning theory, Gestalt therapy, and interpersonal neurosciences, among others—to create a program that transforms conflict into creative tension that deepens connection and renews passion.
In a new chapter and afterword, we learn the key ways in which Imago Therapy—now practiced by more than two thousand therapists worldwide—has evolved since its inception. One development lies in Hendrix’s discovery that helping couples express their anger merely reinforces negative and critical thought patterns rather than defusing them, so today’s Imago therapists have shifted focus toward helping couples eliminate all negativity from their daily interactions. This fundamental change has proven invaluable in couples therapy, and the importance of eliminating negativity has been integrated throughout the text, allowing readers of the 2008 edition to benefit from Hendrix’s ongoing discoveries during his last two decades of work.
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., has more than thirty years of experience as an educator, public lecturer, and therapist. His work has been translated into more than fifty languages and Imago Therapy is practiced in thirty countries. Hendrix and his wife, Helen LaKelly Hunt, are the co-creators of Imago Relationship Therapy. They have six children and live in New Jersey and New Mexico.
I looked at this book from a different perspective than most readers. I didn't read it as a person in need of relationship advice. Rather, I read it as a person who has been happily married for 22 years. My question was, how closely did the advice in this book match what I was doing successfully?.....A bestseller since 1988, the book is separated into 3 sections.....-the first part talks about how unmet childhood needs can affect your future relationships.....-the second part talks about a marriage that can fulfil your unmet childhood needs in constructive ways.....-lastly, part three is the exercises. Here you'll be taken through a series of exercises that you can do at home that have been actually used in the author's practice. They're easy to do and involve writing......Well, that's a rough synopsis that should give you a little bit of a feel as to how the book is set up- and what its about......So how closely did the advice in this book match what I have been doing all this time to create a successful 22-year marriage? Perfectly- both the book and I promote the idea that you have to work at your marriage to make it work! And perhaps that's the best piece of advice of all: find constructive ways to make you marriage better- and that's one thing this book most certainly succeeds at. Other self-help books I liked include "Finding Happiness in a Frustrating World".
We read this for a book club and I was skeptical. In the end, it was a good read for all of us--those in relationships, and those who weren't. It generated some good discussion and as very interesting.
This was a good deal on the book, with cheap shipping. It took slightly longer to arrive than I anticipated, but at the price, it was worth it.
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