This book's cover states it is a toughminded manual. I totally agree. The author represents the situation in an accurate light.through testimonies from real people. It is NOT a quick evening read, but a painful exploration of the causes and devastating aftermath of affairs. It presents the reactions of both genders to the event. I felt like I was part of a family of others who experienced infidelity, fell to their knees with no way to walk forward, and matured and grew as a result. The message is do not trash yourself or your life, but rather examine and rebuild it.